Relationship Advice - Are You Committed to Your Relationship?

By Beverleigh H Piepers

We would all like to be in a perfect relationship where both partners are always happy and content with one another. Unfortunately, it just doesn't work that way. Of course, the more committed you are to making things work, the more success you will have. Does that mean some of the problem might be you are not truly committed in the relationship? It could be.

Take a look at your attitude towards your partner. Do you miss them when they are not around? Are you happier when you are with them or when you are apart? When you are with them, does your enthusiasm drop off after only a short time of being with them? Do you find even the slightest little thing they do or say annoys you? These could all be telltale signs there is something missing in this relationship.

Next, look at how you perceive your partner. Do you focus more on their good qualities or their bad points? Has your opinion of them changed over time, has it remained the same as in the early days of your relationship, or has it grown? If you feel less interested or infatuated with your partner than you once did... then you need to determine why. Did they do something to cause this diminishing of your opinion... or is it you?

Now, look at the group of friends you have a close relationship with. Is there someone in that group you have more fun with than your partner? Is there someone in the group you spend a lot of time with, or you would like to spend more time with? That you feel understands you more? That you compare your partner to?

Lastly, is there anything you are doing with another person that you hide from your partner? For example, you send emails to, make phone calls to, send text messages to, Facebook entries or other types of messages to, and you hide the fact that you do... then there is a reason behind it. If you are communicating with someone else and hiding it from your partner then this is a good sign you are not truly committed in your relationship.

Obviously something is missing or you would not feel the need for this extra attention. You also wouldn't feel the need to hide it. You need to sit down with your partner and tell them how you are feeling, and what you feel. Be honest with them: they deserve that.

Learn about yourself... what makes you behave this way? Are destructive emotions at the heart of the problems you are experiencing with your relationship? If so, work out what you are really telling yourself. What are your beliefs?

For nearly 25 years Beverleigh Piepers has searched for and found the principles to help you get to the root causes of your crisis.

The solution is not in the endless volumes of information you find across the internet, or the advice your friends give... it's in yourself; the thoughts that make you who you are.

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